Dating and Relationships - Atlanta Style

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Monday, December 05, 2005

Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Two

I hope you enjoyed part one. As promised, here is the next part in the series. To read an excerpt from Bourgeios Blues, please visit

No matter how low you feel, no matter how badly the world is treating you, no matter how powerless you feel at times, there is one thing that you have control over, your spiritual well-being.

I want you to celebrate your beauty as an African American lady. Praise the unique hued skin that you were blessed with. Love those lush lips and your curvaceous body. Celebrate your strength, tenacity, and optimism. I want you to do this every morning. Remember you have to love yourself before you can fully love anyone else. Self affirmations can take anywhere from one to five to fifteen minutes. The amount of time that is required isn't written in stone. Do it until the person in the mirror can confidently meet your eyes and your voice is strong, free from all doubts and uncertainties. Don't limit yourself to your bathroom or bedroom mirror.

Affirmations can also be done in your car on your way to work. You may garner some strange looks from other drivers, but who cares, you're nourishing your soul. Did a customer pluck your last nerve? Take a break during your workday and steal away to the bathroom, find an empty stall and quietly remind yourself that you're a patient person. Don't let that person disrupt your positive vibes.

If the morning and workday is too hurried to stop and take the time to nourish your soul, do them before you go to bed. In addition to wrapping your body with blankets, wrap yourself with words of empowerment, love, and admiration before your descent into sleep for the night. When you feel comfortable doing your self affirmations on your own, share them with your man.

Kick off your morning or if you prefer ease into the evening by enriching your and your man's soul. Not only will this deepen your love and commitment to one another, but it will create a cocoon of intimacy around you two that will prevent negativity from seeping in and destroying your spiritual well-being. Stand in front of a mirror with your honey's strong arms circling your waist. Look into each other's eyes while each one of you recite your self affirmations. Do this daily.

Hope you enjoyed. See you next week!

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love


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