Dating and Relationships - Atlanta Style

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Sunday, December 18, 2005

Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Four

Mmmmm, we're on sensual seduction. I'm listening to KEM as I write this. He is sensuality personified.


The Sensual Seduction!

After years of peeing in front of your man, waking up next to him with crud in the corners of your eyes and the stank of morning breath fresh on your lips, you forget about seducing your honey. You know who you are. You stop doing the small things. You stop cooking special candlelight dinners. You stop wearing sexy lingerie to bed. You stop giving yourself manicures and pedicures. You stop going to the gym. In the back of your mind, and you know I'm right, the notion that you've got him now, and you don't have to work as hard to keep yourself looking nice, sits. This is wrong! Give yourself a slap on the wrist.

You might think this is superficial, but let's flip the script. Suppose your honey stopped doing all the things that attracted you to him in the first place? He stopped his weekly visits to his barber because he didn't want to pay the fifteen dollars that he was paying to keep his hair tight. His must do three times a week workouts at the gym dwindled down to once a month, causing his once buffed one hundred and eighty five pound muscular body to balloon into two hundred pounds of fat. And if the words low fat are uttered in his presence, he'd think you betrayed him. Love is a two-way street, it's up to both of you to make an effort to keep yourselves looking attractive. Make a promise to love yourself and love him by keeping yourself in the best shape possible.

Most of us have the full capacity of our five senses, sight, taste, smell, touch, and hearing. We take them for granted. Remember how as a toddler the most simplistic object kept us fascinated for hours? We were given these senses for a reason. A full seduction of the senses cannot occur unless all of the five senses are coddled, pampered, and catered to. Give him something wondrous to look at. Tantalize his taste buds with a scrumptious array of edibles.

Hypnotize him with your intoxicating perfume. Calm his beating heart with the soothing sounds of jazz. And tickle his libido with the sexy, sensuous feel of silk. Whether this is your first date or your thousandth, show him that you care about his happiness. Men are very visual. This bears repeating, men are VERY visual. Just the sight of a gorgeous lady can turn the most stoic man into a jabbering idiot. Men, like women, enjoy spending their time in the company of attractive people. I know this sounds shallow but it's the truth.

Think about your last visit to the gym. Two guys step to you for your number. The first one, let's call him Tom, is five eleven, the color of warmed syrup, buffed, and he has the cutest behind you've seen on a guy in a long time. Boyfriend gets your home, work, and pager number. Then there's Eddie, he's six one, and weighs close to three hundred pounds. You know this because you peeked at the scale when he stepped on. His eyes remind you of a heart-broken basset hound as you quickly mumble that you're seeing someone before you leave the brother standing in the middle of the room nursing his hurt ego. You discard Eddie’s feelings as quick as you would a used tampon, while you run off and fantasize about Tom calling you.

You're probably thinking that Big Ed may be a nice guy, and he may possess all the things that you're looking for in a man. That may be true. Let's be honest with one another, it's the physical appearance that initially attract people to each other. I know that you're shaking your head no and telling yourself that you'll never be that trifling. You’re not shallow. You’re human.

Happy Holidays!

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love


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