Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Five

Hi everybody.

Thanks for coming back. Let's jump right into it.

Please don't go out and get a full body make over. It's important that you improve on what you have and really emphasize the positive. Be a little vain. Spend some time looking in the mirror to determine what your assets are. This is no time to be shy. Do you get compliments from family, friends, and even strangers on your eyes, hair, lips, or big legs? Work those to your advantage. Accentuate the positives. We all aren't supermodels. By the way, have you ever seen any of them without any makeup? They'll be the first to tell you that they aren't perfect.

They have a whole team of experts working on them, hairstylists, makeup artists, and personal trainers. Create your own team of experts. Acquaint yourself with the makeup counter at a major department store. Not only will they give you a free make over, but they'll give you step-by-step instructions on how to put on the makeup. Want to begin an exercise regimen but don’t know where to start? You can muddle through the myriad of exercise videos out on the market today to find a video that fit your needs. If this is your first time using an exercise video, or doing any type of aerobic exercise, be sure to get one that caters to novices. Also, check with your doctor before starting any type of physical fitness plan. If you find one that piques your interest and you aren't quite sure if it's what you'll like, you can always rent it from a video store to preview. This will give you an opportunity to determine if you like the format, music, and the instructor.

The gym is another option. If you can't afford the initiation fee and monthly dues, ask them if they offer trial memberships. A number of gyms offer two to four week trial memberships to entice potential members to join. Use this opportunity to use the equipment and workout. After your trial membership is over, resume talks with the gym. They are always hungry for people to join. They may be able to set up a payment plan that works with your budget.

If joining a workout facility is still impossible, get your workout on by power walking. Walking is inexpensive, you only need to invest in a good pair of sneakers. Another benefit is that you can do it year round. When it’s inclement, head for shelter. Join the thousands of people who have taken up mall walking. Not only will you be getting yourself in shape, but you’ll be able to do some window shopping as well. Remember, there's really no excuse when it comes to not exercising.

Don't forget about your hands and feet. Can't afford a pedicure? They have so many affordable products on the market now that there is no excuse for anyone to walk around with ashy heels and tired looking toenails. Hook it up! Don't forget about the hands. Are your nails ragged as a result of your nail biting? Trim 'em and paint 'em. Polished and neat nails are sexy. And it's a small thing that tell people that you care about the way you look. Let your fingernail polish make a statement about who you are. If you work in corporate America, save the three-inch nails with the glitter for the weekends.

Remember that frilly frothy number that you wore the first time you knew you were about to get some? Is it hanging in the back of the closet on the floral padded hanger that it came on? Somewhere in between the first time you made love and now, the idea of dressing for bed got lost. It's a mistake that many women who are in relationships make, myself included. Give him something to look forward to when he comes to bed. Throw out those dingy white cotton bagging-in-the-butt-underwear. Save that oversize T-shirt for working in the garden. And trash that old tattered robe that you've been wearing since high school. Surprise him with some lingerie that screams: "Let me be your freak mamma tonight!"

If you feel sexy wearing a thong or g-string, do it! Flannel makes you feel like a woman? That's fine. Work it! Demi bras and panties made out of flannel are very popular and sexy as well. Still feeling a little uneasy about exposing too much? Maybe a silky chemise with a sheer wrap trimmed in black lace is more your style. It's modest and alluring at the same time. It'll show just enough to get him excited. The important thing is for you to pick whatever piece of lingerie that makes you feel good. Because if you're feeling good, it'll show when you're making love to your man.

Happy Holidays!

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love
www.desireeday.com