Dating and Relationships - Atlanta Style

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Friday, January 06, 2006

Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Six

Happy New Year everybody. Hope you all had a safe and fun one.

I am still focusing on The Sensual Seduction!

We've touched on the underwear, let's look at your outerwear. Glance down, what are you wearing? Is it something that's reminiscent of what your mother wore after changing out of her work clothes? A ratty silk head scarf, tattered, frayed jeans that are a couple sizes too small, and an overstretched T-shirt. This is a no-no. Hook it up! I'm not talking about walking around all day in designer suits, high heels, and stockings. And you don't have to dress like you're about to spend the night out on the town. What I'm talking about is making sure your outfit is color coordinated, spotless, and without holes.

Sounds like basic stuff! I know, but let me tell you a quick story about a girlfriend of mine. Tania got it going on! She has sistahs from miles around hating her, sistah haters. She got the sports car, good job, good man, who also has a good job, and she's gorgeous. What's her problem? Every Friday whenever she and her boyfriend didn't have plans, she pulled off her work clothes, and threw on a pair of funky holey sweat pants and a ripped up T-shirt that had seen better days. What's wrong with this? You're probably asking yourself. Girlfriend is just chilling. No, she didn't bathe for two days straight, which by itself isn't that bad, but when she went to the gym and had a grueling workout, she had packs of dogs following her home. The self-imposed back to nature weekends nearly cost her her boyfriend. Fortunately, she wised up and now they're happily married.

Tania's case is a little extreme, but it is important to keep yourself looking nice, not just for your sweetie, but for yourself as well. Have you ever been over a brother's house for dinner and discovered that boyfriend hadn't emptied the garbage in two weeks, washed dishes in about three, and you weren’t able to make out the color of his carpeting because it was covered with his dirty laundry? You're nodding your head. Don't be a female version of this slob. Does the stench of yesterday's chitlins dinner hit you as soon as you open your door? Clean it up! He doesn't need to know what you had for dinner the night before, he should be teased and enticed by the aroma of your perfume. Drip drying your pantyhose and bras in the bathroom? Clean it up! That's just tacky.

Do you see where I'm going with this? Yes, the surroundings are just as important as the activity. Whatever you have planned with your baby, you want to set a warm and inviting background that complements your activity. Seduce him visually. Give him an unforgettable evening, which will lead to many more.

See you next week.

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love


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