Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Ten

Let's continue with our Physical Seduction.

5. Take control! I'm not talking about donning a whip and barking out commands. You don't want to give him flashbacks from his military days. Or at the very least make him think you're the sergeant in command. There are subtle ways to tell him what you want. One technique is to gently guide his hands to the place you desire him to touch you. You can adjust the tempo of love making by slowing your stroke, forcing him to do the same. Don't be afraid to change positions. If the one that he likes isn't working for you, whisper a suggestion for a different one in his ear. Making love isn't all about him, nor is it all about you. It's a loving dance of give and take between two partners.

6. Have fun! Let loose. Make all the noise you want. Clear your mind of any problems that you're having at work. Forget the fact that your six-year-old just broke your prized African vase. Ignore that nagging voice in the back of your head telling you that good girls don't enjoy sex. And if you do enjoy it, you're a slut. Every time that voice sneaks in, squash it with thoughts of how good your man is making you feel at that moment.

Erogenous Zones. Wipe that smirk off your face! You probably think that all men have one erogenous zone, and they think with it. Well, okay, some men do. But you'll be just as guilty as the men who think that all women have only two hot spots. That's right, the breasts, and the second, which I don't need to mention, which lies just a little farther south of the border.

Men, like women, have their hot spots too. Men love it when women pay attention to the not so commonly known erogenous zones. They want to be caressed, stroked, and rubbed just like women. Your man may like a soft nip on his neck. Or gentle prodding in his ear by an eager tongue. It might be barely-there butterfly kisses on his rounded behind or soft feather-light strokes on his nipples. He may whimper with desire caused by teasing tongue strokes to the inside of his thighs and elbows.

This brings up another point. Know your man's body. Don't assume that all men like the same thing. Lauria a girlfriend of mine made that mistake once. She had just ended a three-year relationship with her boyfriend, Lorenzo. Not missing a beat, she immediately started dating a fine brother named, Jerome. When they finally decided to cross that line into indescribable rapture, intense joy, exquisite euphoria, okay, okay, make love, Lauria followed the same script that she did with Lorenzo. She didn't deviate from her routine one bit. What she did to get Lorenzo excited for the past three years, she did it to Jerome. She just substituted one body for another, not intentionally of course, but innocently. She was only doing what she thought men liked, based on her past experiences.

After weeks of this, a very disappointed Jerome finally voiced his frustrations and showed Lauria what he liked done to him in bed. He did it in a way that didn't offend Lauria. After that, Lauria was more willing to experiment with different techniques to keep her man happy. Don't do what Lauria did, don't assume what made your last lover thrash with desire will cause your current lover to do the same. Find out what makes him happy.

Have some fun this week, seduce your partner!

See you next week.

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love
www.desireeday.com