Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Eleven

I have an exercise for you. Pay attention, there will be a test afterwards. Get your man, pull him away from whatever he’s doing and drag him into the bedroom. Set the mood. You pick the music, the scent, and the tasty edibles. Slowly undress yourself, then leisurely disrobe him. I want you to get to know his body. Run your fingers over his head. What do you feel? Is it as smooth as an egg, soft as silk, or a little rough? What was his reaction? Did he like it? Now run your hands over his face. Feel the roughness of his day-old hair growth. Feel his full luscious lips, his strong nose, and sculpted jawbone. Rub your hands over his broad shoulders, outline his pecs and gently swipe your hands over his nipples. Be conscious of how the texture of his skin feels to you and pay attention to his reaction to your touch. Does he move away? Or does he press his body towards your touch?

Play a game of fire and desire, it's a fun way to find his e-zones. Rub an ice cube over his body and watch him tremble with desire. Watch his reactions. Spend time on his e-zones. Follow it up with your searing kisses to heat him up. Surprise! There’s no test. The goal was for you to develop skills to become attuned to your partner’s likes and dislikes in bed. Keep the fire smoldering by spending lazy Sunday afternoons or Saturday mornings exploring each other’s bodies.

A Swedish massage is another erotic and sensual way to get to know your man's body. Learn the various skin manipulations, kneading, chopping, squeezing, and tapping of this sensual massage from a book or video. To make the massage even more pleasurable, massage oil or lotion should be used. Shopping for lubricant can be a fun experience, it can be found practically everywhere. For the more adventurous, try an adult specialty store. While you're there wander around the store, you'll be surprised at the plethora of goodies on the shelves. The more timid souls can try a department store or a lingerie shop for their body lubricating cream. You'll find that in your quest for the perfect cream, you'll have a lot of choices. There is edible massage oil in tantalizing flavors of ambrosia, strawberry, cherry, and chocolate that is sure to excite your taste buds. There's massage oil that heats up once it's on the body, this is a very popular choice with couples. The longer it stays on, the hotter it gets. Exciting!

Or to taunt his other senses, you might want to go for the scented massage oil. Fill the room with an erotic fragrance as you fulfill his dreams. Whatever your preference is, rub some on your hands and get busy. It's nine o'clock at night, you and your honey are cuddled up on the couch watching TV. Suddenly, out of the blue, he cups your face between his hands and gently peppers your face with kisses. Your lips meet and it's on! He tugs on your hand, and in a desire-induced trance you follow him into the bedroom. Snap out of it! Don't let yourself fall into the routine of making love in the same place. The phrase, location, location, location isn't applicable only in real estate. Re-energize your love making by seducing him in the least expected places. Use your imagination. Feeling a little bold? Take your man home to mother nature. Make love under the stars with the sky as your blanket and the grass as your mattress. Let the balmy summer breeze waft over your bodies as you two explode in ecstasy. Take a walk down memory lane. Remember in high school where the back seat of his parents' car was the only place you two were able to be alone? Well, it's years later and he has his own ride, revisit that back seat. Take a trip to the park, find a heavily wooded secluded spot and steam those windows up like you did in high school.


See you next week.


Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love
www.desireeday.com