Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Twelve

Sometimes you don't have to go far for a romantic interlude. For some of you, it might be a few steps down into your basement. Remember that old sleeper sofa that you bought for overnight guests, but found that it didn't match your decor and you stuck it in the basement? Hmm, suckie suckie now. You get it? Launch a sneak attack. Catch him while he's taking a shower when he's probably in his most relaxed state. Let the shower be your own tropical waterfall while warm, sparkling, clear water cascade over your nude bodies. Get down and dirty with foreplay. Use a loofah soaked with bath gel to electrify his body parts. Be careful! Making love in the shower calls for some tricky maneuvering. You don't want your family talking about the time you and your honey were rushed to the hospital because of injuries sustained in a shower accident.

What do you do when you want to please your man, and he can't um, you know? Picture this. A romantic candle light dinner for two, an evening of slow, sensuous dancing, and a blood boiling full-body massage while he feeds you chocolate-covered strawberries. Girl, you just know that tonight he's going to give it to you really good. He undresses, flexes the pecs, slides next to you, and peppers your body with kisses. You're hot, you're ready, you look down and find out that somebody called time out and didn't even tell you. Brother man is limp as a noodle. Fight back the urge to ask him, "What the #@#@ is going on!" Resorting to profanity, anger, or pettiness won't solve anything. It might make you feel a little better. But let's be considerate of his feelings. Swallow that anger, and at this point frustration, look up at him adoringly and ask, "What's going on?" You really want to please him, but it just ain't happening.

His response may hinge on where you're at in the relationship. If this is your first time together, it may be a case of performance anxiety. First time jitters. Believe it or not, men do get nervous. Or maybe the brother liked you with all your clothes on, but when he got them off, it wasn't what he expected. Don't get mad, don't get hurt, it happens. It's his problem, NOT yours. Of course, he'll never admit to it, he'll just say that he's tired, roll over, and fall asleep. If you and your man have been together for a while and have never experienced this problem before, he may be suffering from stress.


See you next week.


Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love
www.desireeday.com