Dating and Relationships - Atlanta Style

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Friday, May 26, 2006

Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Fifteen

Welcome back!!! Let's finish off the list.

8. Wow him with a weekend camping and fishing trip. He will forever be indebted to you. What type of lady organizes a three-day camping trip in the wilderness with her baby? You do! It won't be as bad as you think it'll be. Let's do some visualization. Imagine the earthy strong scent of pine, the fresh clean morning air brushing over your body, and the warm glow from the campfire illuminating your honey's gorgeous face. Now are you ready to go? Visit your local department store where you have all the items you'll need at your fingertips. A sleeping bag for two, a tent, lanterns, grill, and fishing poles. If this is too much work, rent a cabin just for the two of you. Spend the time getting back to nature. Take nature walks along the trail or wake up at sunrise for some early morning fishing. Take time to enjoy the unobstructed view of the sky. Have a contest with each other to see who can identify the most constellations, with the loser giving the winner a full-body massage.

9. Workout together. Seeing you in a lycra sports bra and body hugging shorts while heaving and sweating, will be a big turn-on for him. The health benefits of exercise are well-known—stronger heart, lower cholesterol, increased muscle mass, etc. Why not share this with your man? Spend time at the gym working on strengthening your heart and increasing your muscle mass. Warm up together with some body touching stretches. Grab his hand and let your bodies meet in synchronized fluid movements.

10. Indulge him with a facial, treat him to the full treatment. To a number of men, particularly Black men, their face is a source of contention. They have to deal with dry ashy skin, ingrown hair, or acne. To prepare him for this decadent treat, turn down the lights, turn on the answering machine, and send the kids away for a couple of hours, tell them that mommy and daddy need to spend some private time with each other. Set the backdrop with soul soothing votive candles, mellow music, and spirit enriching incense. Start by cleaning his face of the day's grime and stress with a deep cleansing face cream, using slow circular strokes. Depending on the condition of his skin you can do one of the following. Surprise him with a clay mask that will pull out any remaining impurities, leaving behind baby-soft skin. Or you may want to apply a peel-off mask to pull out the contaminants and slough off any dead skin. Top it off with running a cotton ball soaked in astringent over his face to tighten his pores. Finish his facial with a moisturizing facial cream tenderly applied to his face.

11. Thank him! Yes, thank him. Thank him for taking out the garbage without being told. Thank him for fixing that leaky faucet. Thank him for filling the car up with gas and getting the oil changed. Thank him for hitting that squeaky spot on the door with a dab of W-D40. Men do these things to show us that they care. It's their way of being our protector, our provider, our man. So instead of taking it for granted that he should be doing all the above, don't, just thank him.

Don't forget who's just as important in this equation. You! Yes, you want to make sure that your honey is happy, but at the same time, you've got to be mentally and spiritually balanced. Here are some activities that you can do when you find yourself feeling a little overwhelmed.

Come back next week and we'll talk about some relaxing activities for the ladies.

See ya!

Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Denise Daniel's Guide to Pleasing Your Man (And Yourself) - Part Fourteen

Welcome back. Let's continue.

4. If the image of him sleeping peacefully beside you flits through your mind like a soft caress, pick up the phone or lean over to him and whisper it to him in his ear.

5. Bathe him. That's right, give your man a bath. I'm not talking about a full-body scrub down. I mean a loving, soul cleansing bath. There's no better way to show your man your love for him than by giving him a little tender care. Let your hands roam over his body as you wash away his anxieties while he languishes in scented water in a tub surrounded with soothing scented candles.

6. Sweep him off his feet. Steal him away to a posh hotel for a weekend of romance, soul enrichment, and culinary delights. Pack a bag of clothes for both of you, pick him up at work Friday night, and surprise him with your plans. Spend the weekend being his freak mama, rejuvenating your spirit, or simply holding each other.

7. We all know how good we feel when we receive flowers unexpectedly at work. Our heartstrings are tugged hard at knowing that our man actually picked out the flowers himself and had them sent to us. To women, it's a public declaration of his love. You do the same for him. It doesn't have to be a special occasion. Do it just because______________. You fill in the blank. Believe it or not, men do like to receive flowers. Blow him away by having a gorgeous arrangement delivered to his job. If you think that he might be a little embarrassed by receiving flowers at work, have them waiting for him when he gets home after a hard day of work. Be sure to send him flowers that scream virility. I bet you're wondering, how can flowers be masculine? Well, you don't want to send him a bouquet of baby girl pink carnations. Some flowers exude masculinity, red roses do. Picture a rose. Solid elongated blooms sitting atop long thick and thorny stems, this radiates strength. This is just one, there are dozens more. Take your time to visit a reputable florist, don't be afraid to mix and match different flowers to create the arrangement that you want.

See you next week!
Desiree Day
Author of Crazy Love